#SUCCESS
The Impact-Money Divide: Why We’re Wired to Chase Profit Over Purpose
"Profit is the lifeblood of any business!"
This said the client, a CEO of a successful startup. "We have to focus on maximizing profits to stay competitive."
As a leadership psychologist, I have observed time and again that people are wired to chase profit over purpose. It's a phenomenon that I see in managing directors, business owners, and entrepreneurs alike. Despite the growing awareness around the importance of purpose and impact, many of us still prioritize profit and financial gain above all else.
But why is this the case? What is it about profit that draws us in so strongly, even when we know that it might not lead to long-term fulfillment and happiness? To answer these questions, let's dive deeper into the impact-money frequency divide.
The Impact-Money Frequency Divide
At its core, the impact-money frequency divide is about the different energetic frequencies that money and impact operate on. Money is often associated with a lower, denser frequency, while impact is associated with a higher, more expansive frequency.
Think about it: when you think about money, what emotions come up for you? Maybe you feel excited or motivated, but you might also feel stressed, anxious, or worried about not having enough. These emotions are rooted in a scarcity mindset, one that is focused on lack rather than abundance.
In contrast, when you think about impact, you might feel a sense of purpose, inspiration, and fulfillment. Impact is about creating positive change in the world, about leaving a lasting legacy that goes beyond financial gain.
So why do we still prioritize money over impact, even when we know that impact is ultimately more fulfilling? There are a few reasons.
The Power of Conditioning
First, we have been conditioned to value money over impact from a young age. Think about the messages we receive from society: the pursuit of wealth and financial success is often celebrated and glamorized, while making a positive impact is seen as secondary.
This conditioning starts early, from the way we are educated to the role models we look up to. It's not surprising, then, that we often default to prioritizing profit over purpose, even when we know that it might not lead to long-term fulfillment.
Fear and Scarcity Mindset
Another reason we prioritize money over impact is fear. When we're driven by fear, we're more likely to fall into a scarcity mindset, one that is focused on survival and making sure we have enough to get by. This mindset can make us hyper-focused on financial gain, even when it comes at the expense of our purpose and values.
8 Ways How Overcoming the Impact-Money Frequency Divide
So how can we overcome the impact-money frequency divide and start prioritizing purpose and impact? It's not easy, but it's possible. Here are a few tips:
1.Adopt a "purpose-first" mentality
Make purpose the driving force behind your business decisions. Start by identifying the positive impact you want to make in the world and let that guide your choices.
2. Create a social impact team
Form a dedicated team within your organization that focuses solely on creating and measuring the impact of your business. This team can work on projects that align with your company's purpose, track and report on impact, and share successes and learnings with the broader organization.
3. Measure impact alongside profit
Create metrics to track your business's impact alongside your financial performance. This will help you see how your actions are affecting your bottom line and your impact on the world.
4. Partner with purpose-driven organizations
Collaborate with other businesses or organizations that share your values and mission. This will help amplify your impact and create more opportunities for purposeful work.
5. Incorporate purpose into your branding
Make purpose a core component of your branding and marketing efforts. This can help attract customers who prioritize sustainability and social responsibility, and create a sense of pride and purpose among your employees.
By implementing these innovative ideas and other creative solutions, business owners, entrepreneurs, and managing directors can overcome the money-impact divide and make a meaningful difference in the world while still running a successful business.
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5 Ways How to Reprogram Your Mind for Success
From Self-Doubt to Self-Confidence
As a business owner, entrepreneur, or managing director, you know that your thoughts and beliefs shape your reality.
But what happens when those thoughts and beliefs are holding you back, limiting your potential, or causing you unnecessary stress and anxiety?
Research in psychology shows that our thoughts and beliefs influence our emotions, behaviors, and even physical health. Negative thought patterns and limiting beliefs can lead to stress, anxiety, and low self-esteem, making it difficult to take risks or make decisions with confidence.
The good news is that your brain is capable of change. Through the process of neuroplasticity, you can reprogram your thoughts and beliefs for greater success in business and life.
Here are some practical tips to help you get started:
1.Identify negative thought patterns
The first step in reprogramming your thoughts is to become aware of negative thought patterns that hold you back. These may include limiting beliefs about your abilities, fear of failure or success, or self-doubt.
Once you've identified these patterns, you can start to challenge and replace them with more positive and empowering thoughts.
2. Practice positive affirmations
Positive affirmations are a powerful tool for reprogramming your thoughts and beliefs. Start by creating a list of positive affirmations that resonate with you, such as "I am capable of achieving my business goals" or "I trust myself to make the right decisions".
Repeat these affirmations to yourself daily, either silently or out loud, to reinforce positive beliefs and override negative ones.
3. Seek support from a coach or therapist
Working with a coach or therapist who specializes in cognitive-behavioral therapy can be an effective way to reprogram your thoughts and beliefs. These professionals can help you identify negative thought patterns, challenge them, and replace them with more positive and empowering beliefs.
They can also provide support and accountability as you work towards your business goals.
4. Practice mindfulness
Mindfulness is the practice of being present and fully engaged in the moment. By practicing mindfulness, you can become more aware of your thoughts and feelings and learn to observe them without judgment.
This can help you identify negative thought patterns and replace them with more positive ones.
5. Visualize success
Visualization is a powerful technique for reprogramming your thoughts and beliefs. Visualize yourself achieving your business goals, feeling confident and successful.
The more vivid and detailed your visualization, the more powerful it will be in helping you reprogram your thoughts and beliefs.
In conclusion, reprogramming your thoughts and beliefs is a key step towards achieving success in business and life.
By identifying negative thought patterns, practicing positive affirmations, seeking support from a coach or therapist, practicing mindfulness, and visualizing success, you can overcome limiting beliefs and achieve your full potential.
Remember, your brain is capable of change. With the right mindset and tools, you can reprogram your thoughts and beliefs for greater success in all areas of your life.
Silke Glaab is a coaching psychologist who helps professionals and organizations unleash their full potential and overcome challenges.
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From Vision to Action: A Guide How To Set Higher Goals
Are you feeling stuck in your personal or professional life? Perhaps you've been setting short-term and long-term goals, but you're still not finding the fulfillment and impact you're looking for. It's time to consider setting higher goals.
As a leadership coach, I've seen firsthand the importance of setting goals for success and impact. In this article, I'll share practical steps to help you set higher goals and make a meaningful impact in your life and business.
What are Higher Goals?
Higher goals are those that align with your values and purpose and have the potential to create a significant impact in your life, business, and the world. They are typically broader and more meaningful than short-term or long-term goals and require a higher level of commitment and focus.
Examples of higher goals could be launching a sustainable business that makes a positive impact on the environment, volunteering regularly to help others, or becoming an expert in a field that you're passionate about.
Why Set Higher Goals?
Setting higher goals can have a profound impact on your life and business. Pursuing a higher goal that aligns with your values and purpose can help you find greater meaning and fulfillment in your work.
It can also help you enter a state of flow, where you're fully engaged and performing at your best. Higher goals can give you a sense of direction and purpose that can help you overcome obstacles and stay motivated, even when faced with challenges.
How to Set Higher Goals?
Step 1: Define Your Values and Purpose
To set higher goals, you need to first define your values and purpose. What is it that drives you and makes you feel fulfilled? What are your core values and beliefs?
Take some time to reflect on these questions, as this will help you identify what higher goals align with your life's purpose.
Step 2: Set Your Higher Goal
Once you've defined your values and purpose, it's time to set your higher goal. This should be a goal that's aligned with your values and purpose and has the potential to create a significant impact.
Make sure your goal is specific, measurable, and attainable, so you can break it down into smaller, more manageable goals.
Step 3: Break Down Your Goal
Breaking down your higher goal into smaller, more achievable goals is critical to making progress. Start by identifying specific actions you can take to achieve your higher goal.
Create a timeline for each action and hold yourself accountable by tracking your progress.
Step 4: Find Your Support System
Setting higher goals can be challenging, and having a support system can make all the difference. Surround yourself with people who share your vision and can help you stay accountable.
Seek out mentors or coaches who can offer guidance and support along the way.
Step 5: Celebrate Your Wins
It's important to celebrate your wins along the way. Celebrating your progress and accomplishments can help you stay motivated and focused on achieving your higher goal.
Don't forget to reflect on the impact you're making and the purpose behind your goals.
In conclusion, setting higher goals that align with your values and purpose can be transformational. By following these steps and implementing your higher goals in your daily life, you can unlock your full potential and make a lasting impact in your life, business, and the world.
So take action today and start setting higher goals that will transform your life and the world around you.
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My goal as a leadership coach is to unlock your full potential AND restore balance to your life and work.
So you can be more productive at work, more effective in leadership, and more balanced in life.
No matter where you are in the world, the sessions are held online on a secured health line.
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Leadership Coaching: The Secret To Taking Your Business to the Next Level
Are you Stuck in Your Leadership Role? The Top Reasons Why Even Successful Leaders Seek Outside Coaching.
It's time to challenge the common belief that successful leaders don't need coaching. While it's true that many top leaders have achieved great success on their own, the truth is that even the best of the best can benefit from outside guidance and support. In fact, it's often the most successful leaders who recognize the importance of investing in their own growth and development.
As a leadership psychologist, I've worked with many managing directors, business owners, and entrepreneurs who are looking to take their careers to the next level. And while these individuals are all successful in their own right, many of them have recognized the value of seeking outside coaching to help them achieve their goals.
What are the Benefits and Oucomes Of Leadership Coaching?
1.Get an outside perspective: When you're in a leadership role, it can be difficult to see the forest for the trees. A coach can help you step back and see the bigger picture, and offer fresh perspectives and insights that you might not have considered before.
2. Develop new skills: No one is born knowing how to be a great leader. Coaching can help you identify areas for improvement and develop new skills that will help you be more effective in your role.
3. Navigate difficult situations: As a leader, you'll inevitably face challenges and obstacles. A coach can help you work through these situations, providing guidance and support along the way.
4. Stay accountable: When you're in a leadership position, it's easy to get pulled in a million different directions. Coaching can help you stay focused on your goals and hold you accountable.
But despite the numerous benefits of coaching, many leaders still believe that they don't need outside help. They may think that they already know everything there is to know about leadership. Or that seeking help is a sign of weakness. Some may even be afraid to confront their own limitations or vulnerabilities.
If you're a successful leader who thinks you don't need coaching, it's time to challenge your own assumptions.
Ask yourself: What could I achieve if I had a fresh perspective on my leadership style? How could I improve if I had someone to help me navigate difficult situations and challenges? By being open to coaching, you may just discover new levels of success that you never thought possible.
In my experience, the leaders who are most successful in coaching are those who are open-minded, willing to take risks, and committed to growth. They're not afraid to confront their own limitations or seek outside help, and they understand that there's always room for improvement.
So if you're a managing director, business owner, or entrepreneur looking to take your career or business to the next level, consider investing in coaching. It could be the best decision you ever make.
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So you can be more productive at work, more effective in leadership, and more balanced in life.
No matter where you are in the world, the sessions are held online on a secured health line.
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The Need For A Life Purpose And Compass
It's Exhausting Without Direction
James (name changed for privacy) is an entrepreneur in his mid-thirties who approached me with the following issue: “I have been lacking clarity and guidance for a long time, and it’s time to clean up my mental mess and get some tools and guidance and an action plan. I often don’t get the reward for all the things I do, or I pay for it with stress and poor health.”
James felt powerless without clarity, and things were just happening to and not through him.
People often struggle when they have not found their purpose in life. This is what I understood was happening with him.
What Is Purpose In Life?
In psychology, purpose in life (PIL) is a robust intention to accomplish something that is personally meaningful and at the same time to contribute productively to the greater good. In other words, not only search for your meaning in life, but also make a difference in the world beyond yourself.
This definition of PIL implies that you have a personal value system to define what is meaningful for you and the motivation to accomplish something in the future.
Benefits Of Life Purpose
“What’s the benefit of knowing your life purpose?” you wonder. Turns out knowing your meaning in life is good for your physical and mental well-being.
Studies in psychology and neuroscience have found that having a life purpose can have powerful health outcomes: lower risk of cardiovascular diseases, a calming effect on immune system activity and enhanced recovery from negative events.
All important health factors — whether you’re running a Fortune 500 company, an entrepreneur or a high-level professional.
Another important aspect of PIL is that a sense of purpose in one’s career is correlated with both greater satisfaction at work as well as better work-related outputs.
Imagine you’re a hospital cleaner. Day in and day out you perform the same basic tasks. Let’s assume you just see yourself as a janitor in the hospital. How would you feel then? Would it affect your mood? How would you score your job satisfaction?
Most of us would feel depressed, with low job satisfaction.
Let’s assume that you see yourself as part of the overall healing process and you see your role as a healing function. How would you feel then? Would it affect your mood? How would you score your job satisfaction?
This is exactly a situation psychologists investigated. They learned that cleaners who saw their role as part of healing function were more satisfied and spent more time with patients, worked more closely with doctors and nurses and found more meaning in their jobs compared to the cleaners who just considered themselves as janitors.
What is so remarkable in these findings is that seeing yourself as part of the greater good determines your well-being and performance. If cleaners in a hospital find a purpose in their work, we can begin to appreciate the positions we are holding within our organizations.
Explore Your Purpose In Life
I normally start the process with the question: “Who are you?” and repeat the question until clients strip away surface definitions of profession, family or gender to go deeper and deeper to their inner essence — the core of their existence.
This is a good starting point for defining your PIL.
Practice 1: Know what matters.
Values are statements about what we want to strive or aim for on a continuous basis. There are guiding principles like beliefs and goals that are important and emotionally positive for us. Values are highly individualized.
Values are like a compass that gives us direction toward our PIL and keeps us on track while we’re traveling. Using your values in this way will guide you in choosing actions and making decisions that are aligned with your core values and rejecting actions that are not aligned with them.
One exercise to define your values is “Imagine your 80th birthday.” Two or more people make speeches about who you are and what you stand for, what you mean to them and what role you have played in their life. In your ideal world, where you have lived according to your values and beliefs, what qualities are they mentioning about you?
Write down the qualities that are said. Write down at least 20 to 25 words. Now cross out the words you don’t resonate with as much. Narrow down the list to five or fewer words. Now find a tagline that combines all the remaining words.
Some examples: wise counsel (mine); focus - develop - raise up (James')
Practice 2: Recall what you loved to do.
Recall what you loved to do as a child between the ages of 7 and 14. This is the time your talents emerged and were often shuttered by demands from school and parents. You can also ask your siblings, parents and friends what you loved to do and what made you thrilled.
This exercise will reconnect you with your true desires and what you wanted to do in your life.
Practice 3: Know your strengths.
I ask all my clients to do the CliftonStrengths assessment. It is a great tool to understand ways you most naturally think, feel and behave.
From here you can align your values and actions in complete harmony.
James revealed the guiding system "focus - develop - raise up." As a child, he always loved to build things. When asked to connect this passion to his business he realized that he is not the one who will maintain a business but will start one. His core strengths were completely aligned with his direction: futuristic, developer, focus.
With this awareness, he was able to restructure his business in a way that acknowledged his strengths and to create a business that brings joy and beauty to the world.
Source: The article was first published on Forbes on 13. Dec 2021
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Leadership In An Anxious And Uncertain World
Be a Leader in an anxious world
"We are in a restructuring process in most parts of our company: we are changing teams and leaders, we’re reacting to the current situation. The question that comes up all the time is: ‘Where do I go from here? And how do I lead people through uncertain situations?”
We are living in challenging times indeed. Times that push us into the new with little preparedness. All organizations are affected, from businesses, to schools, civil service structures to governments. Some organizations react and others respond to your questions.
People who are leading others are expected to provide strategic solutions and measurable results, hence forgetting the human aspect of the quotation: the underlying anxiety and uncertainty.
Imagine that nobody has been in such a situation before. Hence, there are no maps guiding you.
I realize that any solution to this current situation is not based on economic knowledge anymore, but on the ability to deal with complex and uncertain situations.
Let’s look at some aspects of how you can bring certainty and motivation to the people.
Brain Hacks To Lead in Ambiguity and Uncertainty
1. Self-Awareness
If a situation is uncertain and perceived as stressful, the amygdala — the primal region of the brain associated with fear and anxiety-related memories — is activated. This awareness starts with you. Are you suppressing thoughts like: “I am not in control?” or “I am overwhelmed?” If you want it or not, people are sensing these feelings inside you.
Therefore, the best thing you can do as a leader is to express these feelings to yourself by journaling it or even express it to your team like: “These are challenging times. I have not been in such a situation before. I believe nobody has. Let’s go through this uncertainty together, step by step, in the best way we can.”
2. Purpose and Direction
Purpose is one crucial key motivator that shifts the focus to action and moving forward instead of remaining in the fear zone. Purpose shifts the attention to the we. Give your team a strong reason to hang on and go with you through current and future threats. Ensure that your team members understand this purpose through interpersonal talks.
Best leaders provide a clear direction and are honest about the fact that the direction may need to be adjusted if circumstances change.
Define clear roles for team members and set with them their individual goals. Give regular brief feedback about their current status and acknowledge their valued contributions.
3. Autonomy and Creativity
Another important motivator is autonomy. After you have defined roles and goals, let go of control and trust team members to schedule their own time and activity how to reach their goals. Let them work when they are at their best to produce the best outcomes. Novel new solutions are coming when you are loosing the grip from your cognitive control system to find paths that have never been taken before.
Create moments of creativity by leading brainstorming sessions with your team or teach team members ways of intuitive insights like meditation or intuition exercises. Start the creative process by asking: “Where do I go from here to there?” Imagine all what you don’t want to experience and what you wish to experience as an outcome.
4. Action despite Feelings
ACT action commitment therapy focuses on showing the client that they can act in accordance to their values in high states of anxiety, depression, stress. As a leader you can transfer these principles to your organization. If employees are aligned with the purpose of the organization and find their values reflected in it, they are more likely to prioritize actions to fulfill their values. The question you may want to ask is: “What makes it important for you to stay and work?” Relating to their values makes it easier to commit to actions.
5. Reassess
While you are navigating towards the given direction, be open to additional information that could help you evaluate whether your direction is working out or not. If one option does not work out, see this as part of the creative learning process.
Keep your team informed and remind them you are doomed to make mistakes as nobody has the golden map. Know that for mastery you have to try out what works and what does not work all over again.
6. Remain optimistic
Best leaders are believing from within that something good is going to happen. At the end of the day they write down with their team three amazing things that happened to them to keep this optimistic view present as things are already good in the now.
Summary
Let me close with a quote from Winston Churchill:
“Continuous effort, not tenth or intelligence, is key to unlocking your potential.”
From the above tips select two you want to put continuous effort in?
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With my unique ground-breaking BrainBoss Method you are able to uncover the deeper roots of thoughts, feelings and behavior AND instantly Rewire your brain for success ad well-being.
An over 15-years career in counseling and coaching provides you a safe space to for your personal transformation.
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5 Ways To Be an Empathetic Leader
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Developing Empathy - A buzz Word in Leadership Development
I have been in leadership positions for 5 years now. I don’t want to come across weak. Why should I develop empathy?
I can understand your point of view that an empathic leader could come across weak. It depends how you define empathy.
We are wired as social beings. Empathy has a crucial place in our evolutionary history to create social bonding in a versatile environment.
Empathy is either the sensations and feelings we’re getting in response to the emotions of another person or understanding other people’s perspective or feelings.
In my opinion these are crucial skills of a leader. It reflects to others how you are perceived: insensitive, protective, demanding or collaborative and integrating.
Have you ever asked yourself how your own feelings and emotions could be picked up by people around you? Your own uncertainty and fear being transferred to the whole team?
Or how insisting on your own point of view could hinder other ways of problem solutions and manifest the way of least resistance.
Doing something about empathy now, could change the coherency of your team.
Let me share with you 3 tips how to be more emphatic and be perceived as a great leader:
5 Empathetic Tips For Effective Leadership
1.Listen actively. Listen to the other person as everything they’re saying is secret information. Notice what is also transmitted with the message (feelings, intentions). Be rather an observer than a critic who is already looking for the next argument or question to respond.
2. Don’t interrupt or edit: Hold on to your temptation to interrupt the person to bring the massage to the point. This allows the speaker to fully express their view and point. Make it a goal for yourself to repeat the original information.
3. Respond to the person: Go beyond the story and respond to the person behind the story: “Wow. I can really feel your enthusiasm and commitment!
4. Paraphrase: Take up the information and make it your own. Use your own words to mirror back what you have understood and what you have picked up from the emotions.
5. Bring in your opinion: When you bring in your point of view let it be information instead of pretending you have the truth: “In my opinion” or “I heard someone say.”
Summary
Empathy is a skill that can be learnt.
If you apply these tips into your work life you will discover an increase in the quality of outcome, better team coherency and better performance.
PS:
Be surprised when your 360 feedback improves
Source: Jeffrey Allen (hearing your own filters)
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With my unique ground-breaking BrainBoss Method you are able to uncover the deeper roots of thoughts, feelings and behavior AND instantly Rewire your brain for success ad well-being.
An over 15-years career in counseling and coaching provides you a safe space to for your personal transformation.
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4 Instant Ways To Have A Better Mindset
You Create your own Reality with your Mind
"I really try to tell myself that I will get a job again. But there’s always a voice telling me: It won’t work out. The work situation is really bad. And I’m over 40. What can I do?”
Thank you very much for this important question. What if I told you, that this voice in your head is your own voice. And this voice can tell you anything about how ugly you look, that things won’t work out, that you’re not qualified or that you are amazing, brilliant, ready to receive etc.
It is your choice which of these voices you want to listen to.The mind cannot hold two conflicting beliefs at the same time. Therefore, you have to choose. Which one will you follow?
Let's look at four ways how you can reset your mindset for a better outlook.
Proven Tips For a Better Mindset
1.Make your thought a funny comic character
Take this voice out of your head and put it on your thumb or on the floor. Now imagine it as a funny cartoon character like Dagobert Duck chatting with you in its funny voice about all the bad things it has to say. Will you listen to its “chatter”?
2. Question your thought
Start a debate with your thoughts: “Interesting. From where did this come from? Who told you this? How did they come to this conclusion?” Then you can bring arguments for your antidote based on life experiences like “I was unemployed before. It was not my best time, but also not terrible. I stayed open minded and positive and in the end someone came from nowhere and guided me to my job.”
3. Choose the right words
Your subconscious mind is programmed to do exactly what you tell it to do or to be. If you fill it up with negative words about yourself and the situation, it will give it back to you as commanded. It believes you. Therefore, be wise with choosing words that lift you up and make you who you want to be: “I am getting it. I am brilliant. I am enough…”
4. Good or bad - who knows
Let me tell you an old Chinese story about a farmer who used an old horse in his fields. One day, the horse escaped into the hills and when the farmer’s neighbors sympathized with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer replied, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”
A week later, the horse returned with a herd of wild horses from the hills, and the neighbors congratulated the farmer on his good luck. He replied, “Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?”
Then, when the farmer’s son was attempting to tame one of the wild horses he fell off its back and broke his leg. Everyone again sympathized with the farmer over his bad luck. But the farmer’s reaction was, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”
Some weeks later, the army marched into the village and drafted every able-bodied youth they found. When they saw the farmer’s son with his broken leg, they let him stay.
Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?
It is often our labeling of the situation that creates all the negative feelings associated with it. Identify the situation that you have labeled as bad.
Now write this question: “Could this turn out to be the best thing that ever happened to me?”
Write down your thoughts.
Also write down: “Is there anything I can do to make it the best thing that happened to me?”
Summary
Whatever is created in your reality happens between your ears: in your mind and brain.
It is up to us how we create this reality by using mindfulness, re-framing or dialogue with our mind. In the end the best thing is to observe rather than giving it any meaning.
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Motivation: 6 Dopamine Infused Ways To Get and Keep It
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Why a positive mindset may not be enough to get up and go
"I want to be healthier and start exercising… I want to be more successful and launch my new course… but I do NOT ACT on it."
For 15 years I’ve been coaching people to change their deep rooted limiting beliefs to supportive ones using the power of hypnotic suggestions.
Then I realized that people thought positively and felt great about themselves and still didn’t do the actions needed to move forward.
They waited for the motivation to push them from the sofa to change their eating habits, to go to the gym, to start writing their book, to launch their business…
Having the desire is not enough to make you move and act on it.
Sometimes you may desire something (a thinner or successful you), but only the imagination of any extra effort makes your brain switch back to channel “comfort groove”.
What is Motivation
Motivation is the process to initiate, direct and maintain behavior to reach a desired outcome.
Motivation involves according to verywellmind three aspects:
- Activation: You have to make the decision to ACT on a certain behavior e.g. write a book.
- Persistence: Continued effort to move towards your goal though it may take your resources, time and energy. You may have to schedule daily time for writing in order to finish your book.
- Intensity: The vigor you put into pursuing your goals. You write on a regular basis, attend some writing courses and get an editor to accomplish your goal.
If you reach your goal depends now on the interplay of all three components. If your activation is high, congratulations, you are getting up and going. How far you will go depends on your persistence and how much effort you put in.
Dopamine infused Tips to increase your Motivation
1.Know your why. The brain likes to be set on a passionate long-term goal and it responds well to imaginations. Create a strong image of your goal and outcome. See, hear, feel, smell and taste it with all your senses. The brain does not know if you’re making it up or experiencing it in reality. It responds to the images you feed it with.
2. Launch daily activities towards your goal. A client started her book journey by writing whatever came to her mind into a journal for 30 minutes every day. Another client followed this ritual to go to the gym: He set a wake-up alarm away from his bed so that he needed to stand up. Additionally, he placed his sport shoes In front of his bed room the night before. No excuses.
3. Set the right dose. You work on your optimum level if something is not not boring (no activation) and not too challenging (over-activation). Therefore, find your optimum activity so that you stay on track. Writing 1000 words daily or running for 60 min on the treadmill may be too much and going to the gym may be too boring for some people.
4. Use powerful words. Our brain loves dopamine and it is not very selective in its choice. Take this to your advantage. Though you may not want to write or go to the gym at all, tell your mind things like: “I love to do it!” “It’s such a pleasure to do it!” “I choose this to look adorable/become famous.”
5. Set a cue. For a faster habit formation set a “‘bell’ to initiate your behavior. It can be a reminder on our phone, a message from a friend, or the alarm clock.
6. Reward yourself. After you have done what seemed like an obstacle for you, evaluate how you feel now. Often people feel so much better. Honor this state and tell your brain: “I feel so great…” And do you know what? The brain thinks you are experiencing something that is better as you thought and… releases dopamine. The drug that makes you seek more of that experience.
Summary
Without any action there is no move.
As you have read this information what is your first action?
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How To Create Abundance from Scarcity in 8 Steps.
Most people live with a scarcity mindset. In certain parts of the world, the population has a good reason to feel this way. There is a shortage of food, clean water, and housing in much of the world. Much of our scarcity thinking is driven by advertisers and the media in general. We are encouraged to consume and achieve more.
Even when we have enough, we’re told that we need a better car, better clothes, or a higher income to be successful and impress the neighbors. It’s no wonder we feel like there isn’t enough for everyone.
Move your mindset from one of scarcity to one of abundance with these strategies:
- Those with a scarcity mindset have a very short-term perspective. If you regularly find yourself only concerned with entertaining yourself as much as possible each moment, you might have a scarcity mindset. The utilization of resources right now prevents them from being taken away later.
- Overeating and overspending can be symptoms of a scarcity mindset. “Better eat it or spend it now before it’s gone” is poor way to view the world.
- Focus on what you already have. You might already have enough to have a grateful and positive mindset. When you see that you have enough, you won’t be worried about losing it. You have plenty.
- Avoid people that complain a lot. Complainers have a scarcity mindset. You’re more susceptible to the mindset of others than you think. Find positive people to include in your social circle. There are so many people in the world, why spend time with those that make your life harder?
- Focus on what you can have in the future. Instead of worrying about what you might lose, spend some time thinking about what you can gain in the future. Look forward to the future rather than fear it.
- Visualize an exciting future. Develop positive feelings about the future. Isn’t that the foundation of an abundance mindset?
- Avoid wasting time. By taking part in frivolous activities, you waste your most valuable resource – your time. Value your time and you’ll have more of it.
- Keep a journal. Keep it positive. List the things in your life that make you feel grateful. Be sure to mention all the people in your life. You probably have a home, a job, a car, family, friends, and so on. That’s a good start to a wonderful life.
- Get organized. Getting organized can greatly hasten your move from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset. Organize your closet, garage, or attic. You’ll be surprised by how many things you own. Getting organized will also free up more time. When you realize that you have more things and time than you thought, you’ll think more abundantly.
- Be generous. Convince yourself that there is enough for everyone by sharing what you have. The more you’re willing to share, the more others are willing to share with you. That includes sharing your time.
One of the primary steps to having more is believing that there is enough for everyone. When you have a scarcity mindset, you become defensive and protective. You also create the false belief that everything will be a greater challenge than it is. When you imagine that something is difficult, you’re more likely to procrastinate or discourage yourself altogether.
An abundance mindset won’t magically place a Mercedes in your garage or add few zeros to your bank account. However, an abundance mindset will allow you to enthusiastically take the necessary steps to make these types of changes in your life.
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